The Gift of Singleness: Tips to Embrace the Life Stage for Single Christian Women
Do you feel like the only person in your circle of friends who is single? Maybe you are feeling a little lonely and want to be in a relationship. Have you been told that "it's your time?" Or maybe, even worse, have you ever felt pressure to settle for someone because it looks like no one else wants to date or marry you?
This blog post will discuss embracing singleness, offering tips for navigating the life stage as a single Christian woman. Maybe single isn't your choice, but you can embrace it with joy.
Be Intentional with Your Alone Time
Rather than feeling like something is wrong and being unhappy, be by yourself and embrace the fact that this season of singleness should be spent in worship to God and enjoying Him on your own.
It helps to create a routine by getting into the Word of God every day. Just like we can get on the phone and talk to our girlfriends about everything, we can swap some of that time for worship. I guarantee that when you start this routine, you will find yourself spending less time on the phone with your girlfriend.
He wants us to walk and talk with Him. I find getting up before work, and my son getting up in the morning to walk for an hour, helps me center myself. I listen to the Word on YouTube, replay church sermons, or catch a podcast on my walks. Then I go into a little worship and have a good conversation with God. I clear my mind of clutter, release my thoughts, and become intentional about what I ask my Father. He wants us to build a true father-daughter relationship.
Love God First
It may sound cliché, but singleness is the perfect opportunity to love Him even more. Be intentional about going to church and spending time in prayer throughout the week.
One of my favorite Bible verses is:
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
When we put God first and pray intentionally, He gives us the desires of our hearts. I get emotional when I hear this scripture because I see the picture of Jesus on the cross who died for me, imperfect me. God forgives all our sins and never holds them against us. He is my first love because He unconditionally loves me, no matter how many times I mess up.
Love Yourself
As single women, we should be intentional about loving ourselves, too. Focus on what God wants for us in this season, not a man’s idea or desire for us.
Make sure your self-worth is not based on whether someone else loves you. I was once afraid to let go of a relationship because I feared starting over and wanted to make others happy, even at the cost of my own joy. Since letting go of the idolatry of having a man (who wasn’t equally yoked), I am happier than I’ve ever been and fully embracing my singleness.
Find Your Purpose
Singleness is a perfect time to discover your calling—whether that’s serving at church, volunteering, going back to school, or pursuing your passions.
Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us:
“For I know the plans for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
God’s plans are always best. Trust His process even when you don’t understand it.
Have a Good Laugh
Laughter really is medicine for the heart. Instead of watching movies that make you cry over past relationships, fill your space with joy. I started surrounding myself with happiness and laughter, and it shifted my mindset from pain to peace. Movies, friends, or just a funny moment can be God’s gift of healing for your heart.
Focus on Your Purpose
Some believe they need marriage to fulfill their purpose, but God calls us to purpose in every season. Seasons of life—just like winter, spring, summer, and fall—are temporary, and each season serves its role.
Daniel 2:21 says:
“And He changes the times and the seasons; He removes kings and raises up kings; He gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to those who have understanding.”
Your singleness is not wasted time; it’s preparation.
Enjoy the Beauty of Singleness
Practice self-care, treat yourself, and live life with joy. Go out with single friends, indulge in activities you enjoy, or treat yourself to a massage. I went to Sojo Spa and fell in love—it’s now part of my self-care routine.
Slow Down
We live in a fast-paced world, but God calls us to slow down and wait on Him. If He hasn’t given you the “go-ahead,” trust that His timing is for your good. You won’t miss out on anything He has planned for you.
Ask God for Direction
Ask the Lord to reveal His will and plan for your life. We can’t fully embrace a season if we don’t understand it. Ask Him to order your steps, and He will guide you.
Get to Know Yourself
Use your singleness to discover who you are. What are your passions? Do you prefer mornings or nights? Do you enjoy being around children? Knowing yourself helps prepare you for your future and allows God to refine you for His plan.
Final Thoughts
Singleness is not a burden—it’s a gift. It’s a season of growth, discovery, faith, and joy. Whether through prayer, purpose, laughter, or self-care, you can embrace this stage fully.
